I have to admit, I have
underestimated Iranian fashion and weather in all possible ways.
Since we were planning to enter the country in November, I was
actually worried that it was going to be quite cold. But on the other
side I though it would make wearing a headscarf and all the baggy
clothes a bit easier. I even had a long sweater prepared just for
this occasion. So I thought I was on the safe side. At least until we
got to the border.
Though we entered from the
north and were traveling through a mountain region, we soon noticed,
that it was much warmer than we expected. And I soon realized, that
the clothes I considered baggy, were way to short and tight for
Iranian standards. So (as most of you have probably noticed on the
photos) I have spent the first few days going around in the biggest
shirt I could find in David's closet. And it made me feel really bad,
next to all the dressed up Iranian girls. Because if you imagine
Iranian girls to be all covered in black from top to bottom, you
could not be more mistaken. Iranian streets are a live fashion show.
Only that the fashion is a bit different to what we are used to in
Europe. But it's there to be sure. Most Iranian girls are very
elegant and it seems that even the smallest detail of their outfit is
thought through quite carefully.
One thing was certain, I
was in desperate need of some new, Iran-compliant clothes. Luckily,
our new friends from Fuman were more than willing to help me solve
all fashion issues. And the clothes themselves were extremely cheap.
Unfortunately, I had to accept one fact quite quickly, I am a bit
taller than a standard Iranian girl and that put the most fashionable
manteaus (light overcoats) out of the question. They were just
too short to cover what is (by law) required to be covered. And they
did made me look quite ridiculous. The goal was to hide my back and
all the curves, that we so much like to expose in Europe and to cover
as much of my arms as a standard Iranian size would allow. And that
all without making me sweat too much in the Iranian sun. Trust me, it
was not an easy task.
In the end I had a few
pieces which would help me survive (and not get arrested) during the
next few weeks. It was just enough for a tourist to avoid troubles. I
was told, that if I tried to enter university in such clothes, I
would be surely sent back home to change into something more
appropriate. Well, I was not going to try. I was just happy to get
rid of Davids old shirt and to have more than one piece of clothing
to choose from in the morning. And as David put it: “in worst case
you can use it as pregnancy clothes later on.”
The mandatory headscarf is
a separate story. Fortunately, I bought enough of them in Uzbekistan,
so that I could choose from all possible forms and materials. But it
didn't really make wearing one much easier. I would have never though
that it would be such a big fight to keep it on my head. It looks
quite easy when you watch Iranian girls in all their colorful
scarves, mostly hanging only at the very back of their heads, showing
more hair than they are actually covering. But it gets a bit more
complicated when you try to wear one yourself. For the first few days
I kept loosing mine all the time, especially while doing any kind of
physical activities. But even sitting calmly would not make the scarf
stay were it was supposed to. It does take some practice! And even
then it only works when the wind is not too strong. In trickier
situations I had to go for a good safe “grandma style”.
Another challenge was to
actually remember to wear a scarf in the first place. I was always
trying to hang mine somewhere near the door, just to keep it in mind.
Though leaving my room without it once was quite a funny experience
too. I only got as far as the hotel lobby, but that was enough to
create a small chaos. It was really interesting to see people's
different reactions to the whole situation. I was totally unaware
that something was missing, David and Gerrit didn't notice neither.
But the hotel staff did and they were torn apart between not wanting
to offend me and make me cover my hear, without drawing too much
attention from other guests. The other guests were pretty cool about
it though. Only one person seemed to consider my behavior outrageous,
but he quickly disappeared between all the friendly smiles. For most
of them I was just another poor tourist, struggling with Iranian laws
and traditions, which are not easy to follow after all.
But all in all I have to
say, I do not like Iranian dress code much. I was missing my normal
clothes a lot and I started to hate the headscarf pretty quickly. And
I was really getting angry when people tried to tell me that it was
all for my own protection and that a woman could only benefit from
dressing modestly. Well I don't think I really did. I also found it
quite hard to feel very female in all those baggy shapeless clothes.
And I simply couldn't look at all the young girls in their school
uniforms, as it just made me sad. At this age they should be wearing
pink dresses and Hello Kitty T-shirts,
not some shapeless and colorless potato sacks. People may argue about
the pros and cons of hijab (Islamic
dress code), but I believe every woman should have the right
to decide such things for herself. And I have no doubts about what I
would choose. Especially when the temperatures reach 30 degrees in
November. I don't even want to imagine how nice it has to be to
travel with a public bus in August, wearing a thick black manteau and
a headscarf... Especially when all the guys are walking around
wearing thin, tight T-shirts...
Here is my opinion: making women wear hijab, or niqab, or even a scarf is just another way to control them. It is both outrageous and sad. I do not even consider visiting countries where women's rights are restricted in any way.
ReplyDeleteHi hi hi:) I am so intrigued:)Actually it's all up to your bringing up and culture. I know lot's of women in Europe that would not wear a deep decolte or short skirt. And it's ok. Also I know Arab women that wear no hijab but regular clothes. It depends on many factors. I was the most shocked when reading one great article in the past, actually from the Arab women point of view. They said that European women think they were restricted, when they actually would say exactly the same think about us but rather being trapped in the western need of striving towards sexuality. It made me think. However, I shall stay where I am, being sexual in Europe and wear white skirts in 30 degrees, but stiIl respect other culture's tradition when there.
ReplyDeleteI remember going to Morocco was a challenge for me but actually being faced by their laws and rules was exciting and because I knew it wasn't forever I didn't mind. And they weren't that restricted either:) I covered my arms and knees and other sticking out parts but nobody was fainting when the scarf slipped off my shoulders. They rather tend to thing European women are just easy because there is so much sex around. And this is what happened to you my love):) Let's say what everyone was thinking back then in the lobby - you are promiscuous:) (at least they didn't ask how much - I had to confront such situation. And couldn't think of a number:))hahah. Brilliant. And I think you are one of very few people I could say that about. I love the constant change of the winds in our life. The dark fashion is apparently great for the culture but not for us, used to exposing our bodies (or for some reasons hiding them). David made his point - you can wear them again when pregnant. Let's hope it's winter and the oriental patterns make their come back:) Thanks so much for this article. I am hoping to soak more into Arabic culture in the nearest future.xx
I don't mind hijab, as long as it is a personal choice and not a law. In some parts of Uzbekistan I was dressing modestly too, just to adopt to the local customs. But if someone wants to control dress code by law, I believe they should at least make same rules for men too...
ReplyDeleteI also heard this opinion, that the dress code in Europe is much worse for women then the Islamic one, which does not seem so ridiculous, if you look at the number of teenagers suffering from anorexia or similar illnesses. So the pressure is definitely there, but at least in our countries you won't be put to jail for trying to fight it.
I am glad we have visited Iran though, as it gave us a chance to understand the people and the culture a bit better. I will follow news from this country with anticipation now, as I am sure things will change.